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Showing posts with label husband. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 5, 2013 | By: 2r1n Christ Marriage and Relationship Ministry

Is My Spouse my Real Soul Mate?


Have you ever looked at your spouse and wondered..."hum is he/she my real soul mate?" I hope not. But if you have or just want to make sure that you have the soul mate created for you by God then it would be great to look at ten tips that will let you know.
 
2R1N CHRIST has been blessed to have an association with a lovely couple who's ministry is leading singles to their soul mate. I love their dedication to the work that God had entrusted them with and just wanted to share some of the tips that they have developed. 
 
With that said I present: Ten Ways to Know if you have met (or married in our case) your soul mate  by Petula & Dexter Jones from their book SOUL MATE OR JUST ANOTHER DATE....Dexter L. Jones
According to the Jones:

1. Know yourself and know what type of characteristics, traits and personality you want in a soul mate and don't deviate and accept less than what you know you are satisfied with. Does that person match that?
Since most of us on 2r1n Christ are already married then you know already if your spouse fits you or not. I can say without a doubt that my husband is right there for me. Many of us did not go into marriage wondering if your spouse was the one. Now if you are having problems with character, traits and personality then you are a unit now and building your marriage on Jesus. Commit to rededicating your lives and marriage to God and ask Him to form any imperfections that you find in each other. Seek a Christian counselor or your pastor for help.

2. Do you have a witness and peace in your spirit and heart about this individual in your life? If you do not then slow it down and make sure that you are led of the Spirit.
I can say that I knew without a doubt that I was brought to him as his mate for life. I really had a very strong witness from the Holy Spirit. You should know this by now. As you grow closer together in God He will take any doubts that might come up about coming together away. But  as you read these in hindsight you can see that yes indeed you are with your soulmate.

3. The two of you seem to naturally flow together, there is a great spiritual and soul (mental ) connection between the two of you.
Being married to my best friend we have connected in every way. The good thing is that so far I know that most of the couples reading this knows that they are with their soul mates.

4. To look at this person is like looking at an image of you.
Yes I can see that and its good to know that your spouse mirrors you on the inside.

5. When you've met your soul mate the two of you will display the utmost honesty and support for one another and this person will make you (the female) feel beautiful and satisfied? This person will make you (the male) feel like you're very worthy and able to accomplish anything.
I can just hear all of my married couples yelling now "I did it right I'm with my soul mate."

6. With your soul mate it's like you've known this person for a longtime even though the time has been brief.
Remember that this is set up for a single person. You know this already and when you think back on it you will remember what you felt when you met. I would look at my now husband then friend and think I want to sit across from him always. I felt as if we had always been right from the very start.

7. Your soul mate and you are very harmonious and can work well together.
We can understand that nothing is trouble free but when you are with your spouse and you are for the most part working together and in harmony with each other 9times out of 10 you are with your soulmate.

8. Both of you are very supportive of one another and desire to see growth in each other in every area of life.
I can just see all of my married couples jumping for joy. Looking at each other knowing that without any doubts in your mind that you are with your soulmate.

9. Your soul mate accepts you for you; they're not in the business of trying to change you. They're like a best friend.
Its time for the praise dance. You have landed your soul mate and now the two of you are one.

10. Your soul mate adores the time they have with you and aren't afraid to make a commitment to you.
You will never have to wonder if your spouse is your soul mate or not. You are with that person.
 
While this should be a study that one should have been a part of before marriage it doesn't hurt the married couple to stop and remember when. I for one have enjoyed looking back over our beginnings and to look at where we are now. Knowing that you and your spouse are put together for a life time by God will continue to cement your marriage and relationship together for the duration of your lives.
 
  
  
 

Monday, May 16, 2011 | By: 2r1n Christ Marriage and Relationship Ministry

HAPPY WIFE DAY

Love and Respect = "Happy Wife Day"
It was a hard day at work and I was behind with all of my end of the year reports. I wanted to be done with everything as I do most years. This should have been the time of the year that I would be at ease and just doing little things to end the school year. However this had been a very difficult year and everything was behind. Thus I was trying to complete a report that was due on the 30th of April and let's face it I was already behind and still was not nearly finished.

So as I was working at full speed and getting no where my cell phone rang with my husband's special ring. I started not to answer him and would just text him letting him know that I was busy and that I would call him back when I had time but I picked up and said "hello Honey...what's up?" He simply said "Nothing's up." He then said "HAPPY WIFE'S DAY!!!" I was silent for a moment because I just couldn't understand what he was saying. This happened to be the 6th day of May. Mother's Day was coming that Sunday on the 8th of May so I thought that he was trying to say happy Mothers day but it just seemed weird. I said "ok Honey but mother's day is Sunday." He then said "This has nothing to do with mother's day I have just created a new holiday that we will celebrate every year on the 6th day of May. Its called "Happy Wife's Day" and when you come home from getting your hair done I want you to dress up because I have a surprise for you and we are going out for my new holiday. I love you and I want you to know it!!! He then said I love you in German and we hung up.

I didn't know what to think but I smiled for the rest of the day. It was nurse's day and my boss celebrated by surprising me with lunch. We had a wedding to go to on Saturday from a couple who had been a part of 2R1N CHRIST and we had Mother's Day on Sunday. I was suddenly like a kid in a toy store. I worked on my report with a different attitude I didn't finish but I was no longer stressed about being behind. I got off and went to get my hair done. My locktian and I talked and she spoke about loving the ministry and the monthly loveazine that she received via email each month. She was excited about "Happy Wife's Day" and wanted me to let her know how it turned out.

Loving my hair and excited about the night to come I rushed home and got ready. Earlier that week I had seen a pair of diamond earrings that matched the antique ring that he gave me for my Christmas present. I was thinking that I would buy those earrings for myself this summer for my birthday. I was telling him that I was going to do and was just talking when he went to his office and called me in. I was not paying any attention and was just talking about really nothing as wives sometime do. Suddenly he said "HAPPY WIFE DAY" and presented me with a little black box with the very earrings in them. I screamed and cried and kissed him all over.

We went out to dinner at one of the college's date night hot spots and saw all of the young couples as they looked at this vintage couple who were very much in love. To say the least the night ended in wedded bliss (if you get my meaning) and we rejoiced in the love that God had created just for us.

The next day we went to the sweetest wedding ever and people stopped to say how lovely we looked. As I watched this couple beginning their wedded life all I could think of was that I prayed one day he would present her with her own holiday of love. We danced and rejoiced and gave out our cards because many people had heard about us from the couple. Then we went home changed and went to our daughters to babysit so she and her husband could go out for their first anniversary. We enjoyed being with our grandbaby and she had a good time. Our daughter and son-inlaw came home late and the baby had just woke up as if she was missing them. They were so happy to see her and we could see how loving this couple was. We went home rested then woke up for church and a loving Mother's day.

I so enjoyed having my husband create a holiday just for us. Which was all about me. It showed that he still cherished me enough to show his love. It is so true a man shows love when a woman shows respect...but then that's a topic for another post.

The last thing I said before we went to bed ending that wonderful weekend was this...."Honey I guess now I have to create a husband's day right?" Then he said
"NO ANY TIME THE WIFE IS HAPPY THEN THAT'S THE BEST HUSBAND'S DAY YOU COULD EVER HAVE"
Man got to love him.....and I think I might keep him after all

PS: My husband is currently in hot water from all of his friends who's wives were told by me about "happy wife day"...and are now looking for them to give them one...ha,ha,ha,

                                                                Happy Wife Day